How to be a Successful Flirt

You may be surprised to think of flirting as a healthy behavior, but it is. In fact, without harmless flirting, many couples would never have made their first love connection.  Flirting is the first step to beginning a relationship. It can open the door for communication, or close one in an instant. Flirting is the best way to determine if you have an instant attraction or chemistry with another person.  When people flirt with each other, they get a sense of whether they can hit it off and if the potential for a relationship exists.

Many people are born flirts.  They can’t help it.  They toss their hair over their shoulder, bat their eyelashes, and smile seductively all while ordering pizza. Others find it more difficult.  Whether you are male or female, all people can develop the art of flirting and learn how to be a successful flirt.

First, you should realize that flirting is harmless fun.  You should never flirt with someone and have unrealistic expectations.  You should also make sure that you are flirting with people who are available, unless you are ready for a fight. Always choose the target of your flirting carefully.  Check for wedding rings and do your best to stay clear from those who are off the market.

Flirting successfully means that you understand the art of body language.  When you flirt, you are using your body to communicate.  Relaxation is the key element that you need to let people know that you are friendly, confident, and ready for communication.  There is nothing worse than someone who flirts only to shy away when they are approached.  If you are painstakingly shy then you will have difficulty flirting.  But realize that when you flirt, you will be approached. So, flirt with confidence, and use flirting wisely.

Flirting with your body includes using your eyes, your smile, your hands, and your legs. The way you stand, fold your arms, and cross your legs can all be part of your flirting technique.  The most important tools that you have at your disposal are your eyes and your smile.  However, it is really important to look at yourself in a mirror first. Many times people think that they look friendly and approachable, when in fact they look ridiculous.  Staring at someone like your trying to burn a hole through his or her forehead is not a successful flirting technique.

Try looking at yourself in the mirror and smile as big as you can.  Then, just relax your face and smile naturally. When flirting, don’t smile like you are the Cheshire cat baring your teeth for all to see.  Just smile naturally and keep your face soft. If you can feel the muscles in your face pulling tightly, you are not flirting successfully.

Use your eyes to catch your target’s gaze, then once you do, slowly look away. You don’t want to turn your head to first and look as if you are scared. Also, you don’t want to stare for a long time, you will appear rude. Just catch their gaze then slowly look away.  In a few seconds glance back and see if you and your target catch gazes again.  If you do, then smile naturally. If they return the smile, then congratulations!  You are now a successful flirt.